Would you let your daughter spend the night with a registered sex offender? Would you let this man take control of your life?

My name is Victoria Howard, my child is a victim of a sex offender and this is my story....

On March 12, 2004 my ex husband plead guilty and was convicted of aggravated sexual assault of a minor. The victim is my oldest daughter from a previous marriage and she was eight years old at the time. My child was a victim of this man for two years before I found out.I thought I had the perfect marriage and life but i was soon to have my world turned upside down. I underwent In vitro fertilization for 2 years during our 5 year marriage and gave birth to our daughter in 2002. She was only 6 months old when my nightmare came true. Thanks to Patsy's house in Wichita Falls my children and I were able to find a place to live and try to pick up the pieces of our lives. They provided my children clothes, food, counseling and any support for as long as we needed it. Without them I don't know how I could of done it. My daughter begged me not to make her testify against this man and after all she had been through i couldn't tell her she had to so he was given 8 years probation. I was reassured by the district attorney that if he messed up at all he could go back to court and face up to 99 years in jail. Also the district attorney found two previous charges of indecent exposure. On two different occasions he was caught masturbating in alleys to women sunbathing. He plead guilty to a lesser charge and got off. Over the past 5 years this man has been determined to make my life a living hell and is succeeding at it. I remarried almost two years ago to a member of the United States Army. We are currently stationed in Hawaii until may 2010, which then we will go to Fort Sill, Oklahoma. Before I left to Hawaii in may of 2008 I took our daughter to say goodbye to him out of the goodness of my heart and he set me up. While I was there Mr.Mrugalski(sex offender) had me served trying to stop me from leaving the state of Texas with our daughter who is now 7. I had one day to be in court and had no money or attorney, I had to call my parents and pray they could come up with the money to help me and with luck they did. It was the day before I left and we had no house and had sold everything we owned to move, so if I had to stay in Texas we would of had nothing and I mean nothing but a car. I had already giving my notice and left my employer of 8 years. On the day of the court hearing it was ordered I could leave which was a relief beacause I had no more money and non refundable plane tickets. While in the court room Mr.Mrugalski asked for two phone calls a week and web cam access to our daughter who was only five at the time. I told my attorney I would not give this man web cam access, his victim lives in my house and thats not fair to her. My attorney at the time told me if I want to get on the plane and get out of Texas then just agree with them and get this over with. I was devestated but did agree. Right after I left the court room I went to adult probation to see his probation officer. I took him multiple pictures of Mr.Mrugalski being in places like amusement parks. He was forbidden to be there under the probation. His probation officer told me this would be taken care of but I never heard anything from the probation office. I know they talked to him because Mr.Mrugalksi began calling me cursing me out. I let Mr.Mrugalski see emma under the supervision of his girlfriend while I lived in Texas and I had pictures of her letting Mr.Mrugalski bath my daughter which also was a big no no. I also gave those to the probation office. After I got to Hawaii Mr.Mrugalski continued to call me all hours of the night very intoxicated cursing me out and telling me I cant keep our daughter from him. I finally had enough and changed my number. Well in May on 2009 I was told I was to be in court for 18 contempts of court. I was never even served with anything. The charges were for changing my number and not letting him talk to his daughter. Mr.Mrugalski told me that his attorney was asking for a month for every contempt and I was facing 18 months in jail. I got so scared and gave mr.mrugalski my new number, I called and begged him to just leave us alone. I told him he had done so much to us already to please let me get on with my life. Well he refused and said that he would do whatever he had to do and use all his resources to get rights to his daughter. I had no idea where to turn at this point so I called the attorney from the case and he told me I messed up. All's he kept telling me is I screwed up so bad because now I have violated a court order. He proceeded to tell me how "stupid" I was and things got ugly so I fired him. I told him I didnt even want to agree to the previous terms. The court hearing was in May 2009 and the judge dismissed it until I could get an attorney. At this point im hopeless, I'm a stay at home mom with four children and cant afford a plane ticket and to hire another attorney. At this point my current husband decided the only way to do this is to re enlist and give 5 more years of his life to this country. Once he does that we could get a small bonus to hire another attorney. It would take weeks to get the money so once again I turned to my parents and begged for help. The only thing they could do was borrow against their 401k to help me and they decided to do that. I then started calling attorneys to see who could help me and how much it would cost me. I only got a phone call returned from one attorney and I hired that attorney and I am currently waiting the court hearing on December 14th. Now I have got to put my family in danger of being provided for just so I can afford a plane ticket to go back to Texas to fight for my daughters rights. I am being told this man has a chance of getting rights to her. This man is on probation till March of 2012 and is asking for overnight visits to my 7 year old daughter. The kicker is he wants the court to give his new wife to right to supervise the over night visit. His attorney said she is going through a chaperone program so she can supervise. There is no way I am gonna allow the spouse of the sex offender "Supervise my daughter being at his house overnight". My daughter is 7 and we are being treated like we did something wrong. All's I am trying to do is protect my daughter, that is my god giving right. But if our legal system thinks this man is rehabilited enough eventhough hes still on probation he may get the visits. When a person is sentenced to jail they dont get out till they do their time, well can someone tell me how this man can get rights to my daughter when he hasnt done his time. The court gave me 8 years on his conviction. 8 years I can be sure my daughter is protected from him and now there is a chance it will be overturned, how? How can they take that away from us, alls im asking for is the last three years for my daughters safety. After all hes not in jail becuase we didnt pursue him and we had all the evidence for a sure conviction. I let this man walk the streets and only get probabtion and now he may not even have to finish his 8 years. I just dont understand where is the protection for our children. I have wrote the head of adult probation begging for his help and have not ever recieved a call or email back. I went to the head of adult probation because I wasn't being taken seriously. Mr.Mrugalski has not paid a dime of child support in over a year and thats a direct violation of his probation. Well probation told me in order to try to revoke him he had to have a direct order but again my calls have went unanswered. Mr.Mrugalski does have direct violations of the order. Also Mr. Mrugalski has been turned in on more than one occasion my neighbors stating there are children going to his house. These children were his two from his first marriage. I called probation and even wrote a statement and signed it for them stating that the neighbors complaints were true. Mr.Mrugalski was also giving numerous lie detector test which in the beginning he was passing., that I believe is why cries from neighbors went unheard. Mr.Mrugalski told me he knew how to pass the tests. He even went into details about how to pass them. Well it was working and he should of failed them. I called his probation officer and told him Mr.Mrugalski knew how to pass them so they did something to him because I got a phone call from Mr.Mrugalski yelling at me because he then began to fail them. Mr.Mrugalski then told me he finally had to tell the truth and was only giving weekends in jail for that. I don't feel like the probation office is doing there job to their fullest ability and now I am facing having to hand over my 7 year old daughter to a sex offender for overnight visits. My parents and myself were both told before we hired this new attorney that the most this man would get is supervised visits which I can deal with. But now that I have handed over my last dime I am not being giving much hope. I have no idea what to do or who to turn to. Not to mention what this is gonna do to my oldest daughter(the victim). If Mr.Mrugalski gets overnight visits to my daughter im afraid what will happen to my oldest. I don't think she can handle any more emotional abuse from this man. She has been through enough and now I might have to tell her that her baby sister has to go spend the night in this mans house. I'm so afraid she will relapse back into a deep depression. It has taken us five years to get her to open up and try to be a happy 16 year old. She trusts absolutley no one, She still sleeps tucked all the way under her covers, head and all, she can't leave her bedroom door open at night and she is deathly scared of the dark. She still has a physical disability which we think may be perminent. I have two children to protect here and I have to do whatever I have to do for someone to please hear me and stop this sex offender once and for all. So many people are giving second chances and thats fine , I will agree to supervised visits by me but how in the world do you allow her to have to spend the night. Our daughter doesn't even want to speak to him. We finally had to sit our youngest down and tell her what her farther did to her sister. I know she doesnt understand but she called Mr.Mrugalski and told him she is so mad at him and does not want to speak to him ever again. She never ever asks about him anymore. I know I need to get ahold of the probation file to prove my case but again I have no idea how to do that. It's my only hope...I also have a serious health condition that was found about a year ago and I continue on going treatment. The kicker here is the Dr tells me I have got to take the stress out of my life and stop smoking if I ever want to get better and stay out of the operating room. I have to get healthy because I have to live long enough to raise my children.How can I take stress out of my life if everytime I turn around this man can keep taking me back to court. He commited the crime and should pay for it. Every time he wants to hurt me he calls his attorney and I have to keep making my family suffer and do without because we have to keep paying attorney fees and plane tickets. He did this crime but we are the ones suffering. When is enough enough? How much suffering does my family have to go through before he is stopped? If something happens to me where would my youngest child go? To him? I'm told my current husband cant adopt her, that he would have to fight Mr.Mrugalski if something happens to me. So no matter what i do to try to protect my kids now or in the future it all back fires on me and I keep hitting brick walls. We just want to live a normal life again. I turn to the media and public to beg for help...I no longer know where to turn or what to do. I want my life back! my daughter don't get a second chance so why does he?